I love the person i married which seems to have been a lie, i wish we could save it but wishing is different than what should be done, i wish she would learn but seems to be really high in the Limerence fog and hurts badly being ignored by the women you love i am trying to get better and go out for myself but is hard
So start DBing, realize you are doing it for yourself, and if she comes around so be it. Don't make rash decisions to start hooking up with other women because you are hurting. Take time away from women, just focus on you. Don't try to punish her if you really love her. It took me quite awhile to learn that lesson myself. I'm a little over a year into this and am just starting to develop some patience so I understand where you are coming from. Again, focus on you and improving your life. She may eventually see the error of her ways and try to come back. Or not. If you are happy and healthy, things will work out the way they are supposed to.
This.
What I'm hearing from Pablomon is "I like sex". Which of us doesn't really? But based on that "I can't wait for her to come back so we can have sex so I'm going to go out in the meantime and find someone else to have sex with."
Don't make this about sex. You can go 6 months without sex, believe it or not! I'm starting to get the impression that you're more interested in her body than anything else. That's not love.. That's lust. You've accused her of being addicted to limerance. I'm beginning to wonder if that wasn't a bit of projection?
Last edited by SteveLW; 05/01/2301:37 PM.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
