I agree with you that's why i signed divorce and went no contact to remove myself from the equation also for my own good i kept moving just yesterday i was able to hook up with a girl i need to understand what I really like to do but so far removing myself is the only thing that worked.
I agree with you that's why i signed divorce and went no contact to remove myself from the equation also for my own good i kept moving just yesterday i was able to hook up with a girl i need to understand what I really like to do but so far removing myself is the only thing that worked.
What do you mean by “hook up with a girl”? Met up with or actually hooked up? Not a vet around here, however I don’t think getting involved with other women is a good idea until you are actually divorced. Just my 2 cents.
What do you mean by “hook up with a girl”? Met up with or actually hooked up? Not a vet around here, however I don’t think getting involved with other women is a good idea until you are actually divorced. Just my 2 cents.
I agree
I have heard advice as to how long to grieve this marriage. One month per year of marriage is a good rule of thumb.
You dont want to keep making the same mistakes over and over. Figure all that out.
Couple of quick things. You're correct, you have no patients, all of this has happened in just March and April? To properly DB you need to relax and realize this is going to be a long long process.
I'm also confused about your status. Are you actually already divorced or?
Lastly, you can't really point the finger and say you're disgusted by her behavior and turn around in less than a week and do the same. 2 wrongs do not make a right.
Me: 40 EX:37 Together 17 years Married 16 years 5 kids, 20,18,15,14,11
You are right divorce was served takes 6 months to be completed however i do not have the patience and i think there is not much to save so I rather start moving and getting over it, of she comes back good if it's late good otherwise i will take this time and do what's needed for me not for her
I love the person i married which seems to have been a lie, i wish we could save it but wishing is different than what should be done, i wish she would learn but seems to be really high in the Limerence fog and hurts badly being ignored by the women you love i am trying to get better and go out for myself but is hard
I love the person i married which seems to have been a lie, i wish we could save it but wishing is different than what should be done, i wish she would learn but seems to be really high in the Limerence fog and hurts badly being ignored by the women you love i am trying to get better and go out for myself but is hard
So start DBing, realize you are doing it for yourself, and if she comes around so be it. Don't make rash decisions to start hooking up with other women because you are hurting. Take time away from women, just focus on you. Don't try to punish her if you really love her. It took me quite awhile to learn that lesson myself. I'm a little over a year into this and am just starting to develop some patience so I understand where you are coming from. Again, focus on you and improving your life. She may eventually see the error of her ways and try to come back. Or not. If you are happy and healthy, things will work out the way they are supposed to.
I love the person i married which seems to have been a lie, i wish we could save it but wishing is different than what should be done, i wish she would learn but seems to be really high in the Limerence fog and hurts badly being ignored by the women you love i am trying to get better and go out for myself but is hard
So start DBing, realize you are doing it for yourself, and if she comes around so be it. Don't make rash decisions to start hooking up with other women because you are hurting. Take time away from women, just focus on you. Don't try to punish her if you really love her. It took me quite awhile to learn that lesson myself. I'm a little over a year into this and am just starting to develop some patience so I understand where you are coming from. Again, focus on you and improving your life. She may eventually see the error of her ways and try to come back. Or not. If you are happy and healthy, things will work out the way they are supposed to.
This.
What I'm hearing from Pablomon is "I like sex". Which of us doesn't really? But based on that "I can't wait for her to come back so we can have sex so I'm going to go out in the meantime and find someone else to have sex with."
Don't make this about sex. You can go 6 months without sex, believe it or not! I'm starting to get the impression that you're more interested in her body than anything else. That's not love.. That's lust. You've accused her of being addicted to limerance. I'm beginning to wonder if that wasn't a bit of projection?
Last edited by SteveLW; 05/01/2301:37 PM.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
