There are no quick fixes here. You are still in the mode that you can do something to fix this right now. My guess is you think filing for D will shock her out of it. In fact she would probably say thank you. Have you spoken to a lawyer?
It's not so much to shock her out of it, but more to get some type of resolution moving. I realize it's only been a few weeks since BD though.
I have not officially spoke to a lawyer yet. An acquaintance of mine is a lawyer and we've chatted about things, but nothing major yet.
Here's what I don't want happening. I was/am about 50/50 on if I want to save the M or divorce. The last 3 weeks have been really good though. No sex or anything, but communicating, her going out of her way to do nice things, etc. I know it's probably an act. But I don't want to start getting emotionally reinvested in saving the M (because wow, look how good things have been lately. Wonder if it can be like this all the time!), only to have her proceed with the D. Not sure I'm explaining it correctly.
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
