Well done. Continue to remain be calm and moving forward.
Originally Posted by Rejoice
H sat me down and told me that he spoke to the OW and told her that it's in everyone's best interest that they no longer speak to one another.
That is a good step. However, that is not H stating he wants to be in a committed relationship with you.
Believe nothing they say, and only half of what they do.
H did likely speak with OW. Yet, his language leaves plenty of wiggle room. He only said it is in everyone’s best interests. He didn’t firmly end it. Not yet anyhow.
As his emotions sort and settle, his language will alter as well. His current path and decisions, are emotionally driven. Rational and clear minded takes a while. All of which is reflected in his actions. Hence, believe only half of what they do. Consistent demonstrated behaviour.
H likely has the intentions. Need to let him show just how strong is his spirit. Does he have the fortitude to really end things.
Originally Posted by Rejoice
I'm waiting patiently until he has the bandwidth to tell me more, because I certainly have a lot to say about what the future of our marriage looks like when he's ready to hear it.
It will be some time before H will be ready for a discussion about the future look of your marriage. Dig for patience and keep living for you. And keep doing what works.
Hoping you have a wonderful Sunday.
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
