A part of the convo I forgot about- When she told me she was happy again I asked if her feelings towards me had changed. She didn’t understand the question. I said you told me on BD (I used different terminology) that you weren’t in love with me anymore, is that still true? She said I love you and then tried to say it was the same thing. We talked about it some more and I dropped it. Maybe it shouldn’t have bothered me so much. Maybe I’m just splitting hairs. She is happier acting yet she definitely doesn’t seem like she’s in love again.
You are not going to talk your way through this.
You have to completely change the way you interact with her. Most guys do not understand how important this is. You have to reinvent who you are and how you interact with everyone, especially her. It is important for you to look at this through completely different "glasses".
Do you know your SMV? Is it higher or lower than at bomb drop?
One big onion to peel back. Layer by layer. So many layers.
Being in love vs feeling in love vs loving someone are all different. There are different types of love as well. the more types that she has for you , the better. Your behavior can elicited these different feelings in her. Other behaviors of yours can also kill these feelings. You have to figure out what type of feelings you want her to experience while in your presence and then behave accordingly.
Like I said above, you are not going to talk your way through this, but you can use your words to stir up feelings within her. You should not be talking to her to have a logical discussion. You should instead want your words to do things such as turn her on. Watch her actions/reactions for her true beliefs/intentions etc.
Do not be boring. Have fun. Don't take her behavior supper serious.
Love her. Hate her behavior if warranted.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
