I know it is a fool’s errand to try and understand someone in such a frame of mind but I remain perplexed that W has not asked for any money. Not from me but from our joint savings. I moved our emergency fund to a high-yield savings account a couple of months pre-BD. It is technically in my name only but I have never been under any illusion that it is mine and if she were to ask for half of this I would transfer it to her without question.

I suppose it could be guilt associated with the realness of having to ask?
Proving to herself, me, and the world that she can in fact make it on her own?
Someone else supporting her?

I guess I know the only non-speculative answer to this question is that it doesn’t really matter. Sometimes writing things out like this is sufficient enough to clear it from the mind.

Last edited by DnJ; 04/30/23 12:53 PM. Reason: Corrected typo.