Thank you for reassurance re DB. I have read the book (& clearly have understood some) but maybe need to revisit. On reflection, I can see that my behaviour is completely different to previous behaviours which were facilitating cake eating.
Kind - as ever your observations have given me something to think about. You're right about my ability to manage highs and lows. Despite what I verbally say, I do think what I do & say always has a background intention of being something that might help facilitate R. I'm hoping his response yesterday will help me detach more consistently. I had IC through work scheme but it was not a good fit. I wanted to work on me but she seemed very biased towards me being better off without H & I ended the sessions before I had used the full amount. I think I have found someone else based on recommendations but she has a wait list. I've bought a couple of self help books & I'll work through these whilst waiting.
