Thankyou Kind and Steve. I certainly needed that lesson right there. Now come to think of it why did I apologise the truth does hurt.I’m def overthinking everything right now. I feel like I take a step forward with boundaries and then go backward. I guess it’s part of the process. So engaging too much should I just ignore him If we cross paths in the house or not listen or talk about his work if he opens conversation? I am not a fan of cake eating that’s for sure 😂this is a mess. I am also so torn if I should take my rings off. He removed his the day he moved out and still dangles on his key ring. It hurt so much and he had no answer as to why he removed them. I’ve Kept mine on because he is saying he’s not sure and I am trying to show I am committed and will not take them off until we are done for good. But now I feel that’s all agains DB and maybe I need to mirror his action
Ignoring is not what you are going for. You want to listen and validate. You want to treat him the way you would the cashier at the grocery store. You listen. You answer direct questions (but only in short sentences). And you are polite, kind, and upbeat. But you don't ask questions. You do not start the conversations. And you do not share the way you would when you were married to him. Remember, short answers to his questions.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
