So what I thought would happen has happened. W told me Sunday night that she is happy and wants to be here, with me, again. Her words before were that she didn't want to be here a lot of the time. However, she wants to move on like nothing happened. Can't understand why I need to discuss the anything, doesn't want to attend IC or MC. Just move on. I told her I wasn't ok with that plan because we will end up right back in this situation again. I asked her if the roles were reversed wouldn't she want these things. She said no. We are different and she could just move on. I'm at a loss. I know that I need to just keep on with the basic principals of DBing as far as GALing, 180, improving myself, etc. Beyond that, what's next? I don't want to push her away and I don't want to wake up 5 years from now to another BD. One thing I pointed out was her saying she "feels" happy. I asked what was to prevent her from not "feeling" happy again and wanting out. No answer. Mostly no answers to anything. She thinks that my being willing to stay with her after the A, which she still has never admitted was physical, means I should just be willing to move on. I bring up her not admitting the affair was physical because, as in all of these sitches, there are so many lies and deception. I still struggle with that. It's hard to trust someone that doesn't really express remorse. My initial thought is to just carry on for now and see where things go. Any advice would be appreciated.
