I’m still so lost

[Pattnee5]

Thankyou so so much Steven for your brutal honestly. I think I need this especially validated from people who have been there done that.I received DR and will read it in the next day or so. Still recovering from surgery. I think you are so right I need to pull back and not be so available.it’s a whole mind shift that’s for sure. As for the gaming he plays in our living room ( literally where I am in the kitchen and tv area all the time) and our 14 year old daughter is often online with them too with his high school friends who life interstate. So yeah I am not worried there too much but the thought that one day he may find someone else ( and let’s be honest if he gets on a dating app someone will def snap up a good looking successful and nice guy) it cuts me up to even think I may lose him.
Okay I’ll try the book first and read validation etc. so much to learn. I def want to be intimate with him when he loves me and looks at me again and not just to get off. It certainly hurts and I am glad you said about what happened 9 years ago. He forgave me he wanted to move forward bsck then, and never bought it up. Only the last year when he started to withdraw and get angry and drink was when he would bring it up. So I too am no buying it.
Thankyou again Steven your honesty is exactly what I need