I really don't know what to say. I am happy for you that W is back. It sounds like you will have your hands full for awhile. But I will give you a take on what I think.
Quote: and she fell into my arms, sobbing, saying she loved me. I was quite blown away since W had basically told me less than 12 hours before that she didn't love me and never would.
The rollercoaster ride of I love you and I don't love you seems to be the normal sitch. for WAW. They are going thru some much at times they don't even know themself. I think the is where the phrase SAM - Silly Alien Monkee has came from. If you read others post sometimes you will find that used a lot. I hate to say it but you might see a little more of the I love you rollercoster. Just hang on thight the ride might not be long.
Quote: but the SOB backed out on her. He told her he could tell she still loved me and that she needed to work on her marriage. He had told her that he would punch out early, stop calling, and avoid her completely. She said she was so pissed at him. I was a little angry because I seem to be the back-up plan. I still am not sure how to react to this.
It is to your advange that Om is bein a SOB. And he might have seen that W still loves you, and maybe he sees that it wouldn't work out between them. What ever his reason are just be glad that he said and hopeful follows tru. As for being the back up plan, I don't think W really had a plan. Just try to keep things together. And as much as you can no pressure.
Quote: She is going to put in her two week notice tomorrow, and we are probably going to move back to the farm with her family to try to make it work. This is so wierd. I even said "I told you so" and she didn't get that mad. I have held her while she cries to near sleep, of course she is exhausted from lack of sleep. How freeking wierd this is! What do I do? Do I keep DB? Or console her and get her out of her heartache? This is so unexpected and odd! What a reversal I was planning on divorce papers being drafted up and a custody hearing, and now she is back in my life. Where do I go from here?
As for where to go from here. I might sound like a witch. But where you planning on the D and custody hearing because you don't want to work on the marriage or is it because you where preparing for the worst? If you want to work out your marriage keep up the DBing. I belive every marriage could use some DBing(even the good ones.) and exspicaly the one that are in trouble. Even if you move back to the farm. Both of you will need to still work on getting the marriage back on the right path.
