It gets easier for everyone in different timelines. As a general observation, LBWs tend to take longer that LBHs do. Not sure why that is, though LBWs tend to be more dependent on their WAHs. It's almost an addiction for some. The key is to not try to shortcut the process and take it one day at a time. It doesn't happen overnight but gradually gets easier with time.
Remember, like with addiction, contacting him is a relapse and resets your clock. Addicts in recovery don't say "I've been sober for a year except for one slip up 6 months ago." Nope, they say "been sober for 6 months" in that case. Find another outlet and when you feel the urge to contact him, use that other outlet instead. Exercise is a big one. But maybe it's a friend you can call.. Or an activity you can engage in that takes all of your focus. The shooting range was a big one for me since safe fun handling requires focus.
One day you'll look back, no matter her outlet, and find it difficult to recall how terrible this all feels.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
