Thankyou terapin. I was so anxious to post but I feel that nobody will know what I am going through except others that have gone through it. Family and friends have been great support but it’s almost they don’t understand the pain. I am not ready to give up on him and our marriage. I deep down know he still loves me even though he says otherwise. People think I am silly for holding on to tiny bits of hope and being the only one trying to save my marriage.
I don't think you're silly at all. But I do have to say, and just my opinion, you have to prepare for the fact that there may me another woman. Sorry, it [censored]. But ask anyone here. That's usually the case. Nevertheless, it really doesn't make any difference in regards to what you have to do.
Yep, it's amazing how a spouse can flush years down the drain, especially when kids are involved. But unfortunately it's pretty common nowadays.
The good news is, he seems to still legitimately care about you, and isn't completely 'gone'. I wish I could give you more/better advice, but I'm pretty new to this as well. All I can say is, focus on yourself and your kids. If he wants 'out', then he's the loser.
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
