creed, I know right now you feel like a major failure at DB. But when we make a mistake, we have to double back as quick as we can. Honey, you are only human like the rest of us, we are all bound to mess up. But the main thing is to look back and learn what we could have done dirrfent and next time don't F*** up the same way. It minght take a couple of mess up to get it right but if we keep trying then we wil find the right path.
I don't know what to say about wife moving out (my H is still at home.) But do some soul seaching, and see what you need to do to make you better for you. Strat working on makeing things good for you and son.
Go and read or reread (what ever the case my be) DB and DR. Also ther is a book called Not just friends (I found it help me see how H affiar was.) Sorry I fought the rest of title and auther but I found it in my public libry. Go check it out It might help. you.
When you do get to speak or see W keep thing light. If you know beforhand that you will see or speak to her, get out of house awile, do something that will get your emotions on a even keel. Take a walk or jog, whateve helps you. That way when you to see her you might be lees like to strat fussing. And if you feel the ugre to strat a fuss. Tell W that you will finsh talking about it later when you are clamer. Same goes for if she strats it. Just exit youslef before a fuss starts.
