I've noticed about a month ago W started watching a TV series called Divorced. I think it's on HBO. I finally broke down and watched the first two episodes last night. Pretty much what I expected, and seems like 90% of the situations here. I swear people (mostly women) live vicariously through skanks like Sarah Jessica Parker, and watch shows and movies like these to build validation for their own actions. End rant.
Yep. Very common for a WAS to seek out media, entertainment, even people to gain validity for what they are doing. And to shun anyone or anything that is contrary to that. I'll never forget on New Year's Eve during my situation my wife, as we were getting ready to go to our friend's house for NYE backed out at the last second. She claimed she wasn't feeling well. In hindsight I believe it was because our best friend's were an affirmation of our marriage. That going over there represented our (both couples) mutual commitment to our spouses. That our family and their family represented the Christian, "no divorce no matter what (except for adultery)", stance she'd always taken. And that going there would trigger her guilt in not having that stance any longer.
I also noticed she was watching YouTube videos on female strength and independence, listing to female empowerment and break up songs, etc.
But I can't emphasize enough how big her not going to our friend's that night was. And the awkward position it put me in. Her best friend want buying the sudden "I don't feel well" story. And I don't blame her. My wife's upbeat demeanor the minute she didn't have to go that night told me she felt fine.
Sorry, bit of a tangent. But your observation brought that back.
My brother and his gf have lived together for the last 10 years. It wasn't any type of ideal relationship. lol. Anyway, about a month ago she went to work one day, left a note that said 'I"m done', and never came back. When my brother's at work she'll come and get her stuff, but has yet to reply to a text, call, etc from my brother. When W BD'd me last week, she mentioned that my brothers gf leaving brought her feelings back to the surface. Unreal.
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
