Read through this post and tell me if you see self righteousness and if you are being genuine. Maybe I’m wrong maybe I’m right.
I am trying hard to understand the points with self righteousness. Most of the text for me was describing of my emotions or stating facts about her words/actions.
I could see these statements sounding self righteous:
"Either she is hiding things from me or completely lost. She wants to change her whole life. Restart it.
I can see that whenever there is any potential glimpse of discussion on her emotions she immediately shuts down, gaslights or denies everything. As if she is running from them completely even after this time."
Saying that she is lost might have given the wrong impression. I just meant that she is very undecisive. Was not intending to imply anything else. General idea was to emphasize that she does not want to discuss things & work on saving this marriage.
"If I would be looking at our interaction from 3rd person angle, I would probably say that I was the one to initiate the divorce/living my life to the fullest and she was the sad, hurt person."
I can see how this could sound cocky. We have been switching between this dumper/dumpee dynamic for a while. Sometimes she is shining and then completely silent/sad, sometimes its vice versa.
I genuinely felt good on that day and definitely received sarcastic/hurtful remarks. It is how I felt during that day and it felt good as before I was constantly questioning everything.
