Self righteousness is a very unattractive trait and I see it in some of your posts. This may be a good place to start. Maybe you disagree? What do you think happened that made your W want to terminate the marriage less then a year?
Oh, sorry I missunderstood what you meant. Yes, fixing self righteousness is always a good place to start. Could you please point out some examples from my posts where you feel self righteousness? I am eager to learn from my shortfalls and would love to reflect on it.
It is hard to fully state what happened and why she would want to terminate marriage so quickly. I could probably summarize it with several words: "we got too comfortable". Additional quality time together would have helped, showing more emotional support to one another, less overreacting to uncomfortable situations. I try to be a honest and open person, I truly want to resolve issues as they come up and not maintain any grudges. Whereas she sometimes had avoidant tendencies, I should have been more flexible to give her space. Emotional safety is key.
Alternatively, there are two scenarios: affair or she is unhappy with her life overall. After BD, she repeated that she want to change everything in her life. During our whole relationship, there were instances where she said that she is unsure what she want from her life, switched friends, jobs and etc. She ended all of her relationships herself. Perhaps I simply could not fully satisfy all her needs and create true clarity for her life. Albeit, I believe partner can only support, but not point out the direction.
To be fully honest, I've read through 100's of stories for divorce in less than a year. 80-90% of them are either infidelity, physical abuse or depression/other mental disorders. Hope that this is not the case as I wish her true happiness.
