Most people "monkey branch". They make sure they have a good hold on the new person before they let go of the current person. Those of us that arrive here are the ones that got let go of.
But is this actually the case of most divorces or just this forum specifically?
Originally Posted by SteveLW
You see no coming back? So you're pulling the plug?
Usually WASs do things like this for a specific purpose. Could be she's lying to OM about how far along the divorce/separation process is. She did this to prove it to him.
Another reason most WASs date before filing is because it's likely the OP is also married. And not ready to leave their spouse due to being unsure of them permanence of the affair.
Plus there are kids and extended family to think about. It's all very complicated.
Unfortunately, I can not pull the plug yet according to our laws. There are certain restrictions to prevent divorce immediately after marriage. Unless cheating can be proven.
I do agree that this seems like specific purpose. All logic supports this. In our case, we have no kids, but my only suspect for OP is a guy in marriage with 2 kids. As I understand, he is also divorcing. There are no confirmed facts, just pure speculation based on scouting done by my female friends.
I doubt that there can be a successful relationship between her and that suspected OP as there is a significant year gap.
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Also, I f'ked up just now. Went to her parents house to pick my remaining things. Her dad opened the door and thought "this is the last time I see him" went through my mind. I thanked her parents as they were always good and friendly towards me. As I said my words, tears started pouring from my eyes. Not because of our situation with wife, but because I generally will miss her family. It was tough to say that goodbye, but I wanted to thank them for everything from the bottom of my heart.
I could see some tears in their eyes as well and they repeatedly said: "let's hope this is not the last time". They always respected me and considered me as a good guy from my nature and it's always tough to lose good people.
Mutual respect and love from both sides, but given their status in her life I probably went to far with my vulnerability. At least, I got to really show my appreciation and deep consideration for their efforts towards me over the years.
Everything ended with smiles and positive note. Even they said that I deserve someone who would be good to me and give me lots of love. I went out smiling and looking positively towards the next chapter.
