So since this is the 2nd time I'm going through this, I have a question.

The first time, I think I did a good job of 180s, GAL, detach, etc. They were very difficult though, especially GAL and detachment. And even though I made those changes for me, ultimately my end goal was to save the M.

This time, I'm kinda finding those things much easier to do (even though it's only been 1 week since BD). Like, I"m much more at peace with things, and I"m not really dwelling on how bad a D would be.

So the question is, has anyone ever 'detached' to the point of realizing you actually would be better off with a D?? Don't get me wrong, I"m nowhere near that point yet. I'd still like to save the M. But has anyone ever did the 180s, GAL, etc and came to the conclusion that 'hey, I am a good person with a lot to offer. Why would I want to be with someone that doesn't share that opinion?'

Not sure I"m explaining correctly!


Married: 15yrs
Ages: Me 49, W 44
Kids: S12
BD: around 4/14