I thought she was having a mid-life crisis but more and more I wonder if maybe she just isn’t the person I thought she was.
Lots of LBSs have put their eggs in the "it's just a MLC basket". What trips up most people is that they believe a MLC is temporary. I prefer calling them "changes" not "crises". It could be that her new self is her permanent new self. A very wise poster that we haven't seen here in a while, sandi, used to remind LBHs that their wayward wife is not the girl you married!
So whether it's a MLC, or a new version of her, or she was always like this and repressing it changes nothing you should be doing.
And I'd like to echo that you're refusing her hug was great. As long as you did it with no emotion. No sadness. Remember, emotional detachment is stating your position without being down, angry or sad. I wasn't there but hopefully you just stated that it was inappropriate matter of factly, like you were refusing a total stranger a hug.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
