It's hard to 180 (going out with friends, golfing, etc) with a child because it feels like I"m detaching from him too. But I"m going to try.
One great GAL to do is just take him without mom and do things with him. 13 is a great age to just go do fun guy things.
Absolutely. The problem is, I already take him to sports practices 2-4 evenings a week, and he has games/tournaments on most weekends. It doesn't leave a lot of free time for either of us.
Remember, where there's a will there's a way. I'm sure you can find bits of time here and there to do fun stuff. Take him out to eat after a practice. Take him for ice cream after a game. Tell your wife that on an open Thursday night you have plans and she'll need to watch him.
GAL is what you make it. Lots of LBSs do it poorly because they don't try.
Good points. Maybe I'll take him to practice on Thursday, tell her she needs to pick him up, and go out somewhere for a while.
When she dropped the bomb on Friday, she said the only financial info she doesn't have is my student loan and 401k statement. I guarantee she figured I either wouldn't get them, or it would take weeks. I had them lying on the dining room table for her yesterday. They're still there and she hasn't mentioned them.
Since our talk Saturday morning, you'd never suspect anything is wrong. I haven't really opened communication whatsoever, but i reply kindly when she asks something. She, hasn't said much either, but has been extremely nice. She rarely ever cooks, unless it's for her or our son. Today I came home from work and there was stuff cooking in a crockpot. Although it's likely for our son. None of that means anything anyway at this point.
Every divorce forum I read says it's imperative to be the first to file. If she's having 2nd thoughts, I'd probably be willing to wait and work on it. If she's still preparing, I should probably file. Wish I knew
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
