URSO, validation is neither agreeing or disagreeing with what is being said, but understanding the feeling

"So when I don't take your phone call, it makes your angry."

"Just so I understand, you're saying you feel sad when my texts are too short."

See, you're aren't agreeing not to not take her calls, just letting her know you understand how it makes her feel.. Likewise with the short texts

Never ever validate if she gets disrespectful.

"You're a tiny little man for not taking my phone calls!!"

"I refuse to be spoken to like that." Then walkway or hang up.

Lots of newcomers miss these nuances. I think it's great that you asked about it instead of struggling with it.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018