Midlife March Madness

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Everyone talks about validating.

I use "Emotional Validation"

General pattern: Identify and acknowledge the emotion and Acknowledge the source.


From the internet:
For example, imagine that your loved one is behaving angrily toward you. If they have already communicated that they are feeling angry, simply demonstrate that you've heard them: "I understand you are angry." If they haven’t communicated their feelings, you might say, "You seem really angry. Is that what’s going on?"

What Is Emotional Validation
Emotional validation is the act of tuning in, acknowledging, and accepting another person’s feelings, even if they’re negative scarry. It involves listening to others express their emotions without ignoring, dismissing, belittling, rejecting, or judging them even if you do not agree with their emotional response.

I would think there is a fine line between that and making it seem that you think their actions/behavior is acceptable.

Can't control other people. What you can do is control how you respond to them.

I have been treated terribly for the past months.

Sounds like you need to set and enforce boundaries.