Saving Pack through D, Pack_19 part V

[Pack_19]

Pack,

Hope this closure brings you peace and ability to move forward. Not what you wanted, but the decision wasn't yours.

Closure remains a fight against myself, but I am getting there. I am working on not seeing myself as a failure and accepting it was never in my hands to begin with. Thanks!

Man, this really resonates. Brought back memories of Sitting far on the other side of the couch and texting OM1 in the same room...etc. Glad we're both in better spots dropping our fear and never standing for this kind of disrespect again.

It sounds obvious now but it is incredible the level of self punishment and downgrading that one can subject himself to in the face of a broken M and the desperation that comes from trying to save it no matter what. I cannot believe I let my children see that aspect of my old self, never again.

I talk to a lot of women who ask me, "what do you want or expect from a woman?". It seems me telling them look I have gone through this, my next choice for a partner is going to be unbelievably good leaves you sounding as a guy who just wants to try multiple women. Nothing wrong with it, I am just saying many W get this perception. Maybe female forum members can help me word this better.

Indeed. Ginger reminds me her D14 calls her mom and does not call OW her mom, even though she's been in her life since she was 1.

This is what we can control.

Don't think I'd broach the topic. If he asks I'd just be straightforward and honest about it without going into details.

Agree with this, let my actions be louder than any words I can talk to them. Let them see what a strong man with values and principles does on a daily basis.

Thank you! ((hugs))