I’m taking a wee break from running wiring for the wall sconces in the theater room. I’m having an iced tea, some BBQ chips, and doing some reading here.
Originally Posted by Rockon
Seemed like she was baiting me to argue a push the D further along. I didn’t take the bait.
Good for you.
I suspect she is baiting you. Be that intentional or not, and to what end be it divorce or more just testing you and your new and improved self, remains to be determined.
One’s spouse does get antsy and will try to move things along. Limbo affects them as well. The time and space to think and consider their life and the choices made so far, and those yet to be made. Of course, self reflection and growth is somewhat uncomfortable, so an argument or fight would renew their justifications and they could quiet that inner voice.
For what it’s worth, that’s what I think your wife is presently doing. It’s 7 or 8 months and she is only now wanting the bed, or kitchen appliances, or whatever it may be next week. I’ve slept on a bad bed, and I wanted a better one the next night, not 8 months later. IMO, it’s not so much about the bed or things, she is looking for an argument, for a reaction. Continue to not take her bait, after all fighting begets fighting. Stick to your path.
If she brings up the bed, sure give it to her. And go out and get a replacement for it.
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Well, back to my wiring. Have a great day Rock.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
