Responding to DnJ: “Is W still living with her Mom? Does W still have free rein of the home? As in, she comes and goes as she pleases?
I suspect she legally still has rights to enter the home. (I’m thinking you spoke to a lawyer regarding the business side of things already.) As such, W could/can borrow things as much as you can.
This pot, she figures is her’s. Yet she asks to borrow it? (Folks don’t ask to borrow their own things. And I’m pretty sure her Mom has cookware.) Then she gets upset, and blames you. No matter how it went, you would have likely been blamed for something”
Me: she is living with MIL yes. And she comes and goes here. I have been standing up for myself for how I will be treated and also supporting D to do the same. The other night D had a big day and W was coming over. D told me she didn’t want W to hang out and asked me to let W know as she was feeling overwhelmed - I did. And I also gave D space and let her know I’m here for her.
W didn’t so much ask to borrow the pot - she just said she was getting it and I asked if she was going to bring it back after she used it. I hadn’t realized that she considered it hers.
Yesterday she brought the issue up again asking what appliances I use. She said if the pot is so important to me then she can take the blender instead. I haven’t answered. She also said that maybe she would want the mattress from our spare room. Because her bed at her moms is not a good one. I had previously said I could bring her that bed from our spare room.
Seemed like she was baiting me to argue a push the D further along. I didn’t take the bait.
