I'm back!

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So, I was here almost 5 years ago when W said she wanted to D. Typical 'I'm not happy, not in love with you, etc'. Later found out she was having some type of emotional affair with some idiot. I won't go into details, but I began DB'ing, we decided to try to save the marriage, went to counseling, and have remained married. Just as a quick rundown, I'm 49yo, W is 44, and we have a 13yo son.

Our therapist at the time was great. We were going weekly and things (while nowhere near perfect) were improving. Then covid hit and therapy stopped. We never went back, cause I think we both thought we were on pretty stable ground. But things have slowly been backsliding. Over the last 6 months or so, sex has stopped, communication has decreased, she sleeps on the couch again due to my 'snoring', etc. But, we've still been doing things on weekends, raising our son, etc.

Friday night she sat down and asked to 'talk'. Like Yogi Berra said 'it was like deja vu all over again'. Almost the same conversation as before. 'Unhappy, grew apart, different views on things, etc'. This time she swore on sons life that there is nobody else in the picture. Who knows.

Truth be told, I haven't been all that happy either, and divorce has crossed my mind a few times. But never seriously enough to break up the family. The next day she said she's not 100% sure this is what she wants, but is leaning heavily towards divorce. May or may not consider therapy again.

So, here I am, back again, almost the same situation. Honestly I don't know if I even want to work to try saving the marriage. But regardless, I have some reading to do, as I've not really thought about this stuff for a long time!