Moving into the affirmative I have decided to drop the "fool" from my screen name...Instead of the question "m ay a fool".....I am now "maya" or the db'er formerly known as mayafool.... hugs all
My dear db buddy suggested I change to "mayasuccess". I like that and yet, it still asks to be defined from the outside. Can someone tell me who? how? about me?
I will define myself and my circumstances...New day for me.
"Maya" also means, "illusion". That seemed right for me at the time I signed up and now I have other reasons for keeping the "Illusion". Soon though, I will find another pseudonym that will work for me.
The closer I come to a lockout...the more I am considering moving over here to "piecing." Time will tell if it is the right place for me next. Got room?
I feel like I do kind of have one of those names that project a less than positive image. But like Briget says - when I came to this board I used a name that projected how I was feeling at the time.
I didn't realize it at the time, how often a spouse walks away without any notice. But when my P called me up and said "I'm sorry, I don't know what to say, I think I'm falling in love with someone else" and then decided that she had to "explore" this new love. I truly was Totally Shocked. I had absolutely no idea that this was coming - and although I understand that's fairly common - it wasn't common to me.
Since then I've thought about whether or not I should change the name. I don't want to have a negative connotation. Funny thing though - I'm still Totally Shocked. To this day I still don't understand because she seems to really love me and I don't understand her attraction to the OW.
Plus, I'm finding it fun to always post a last sentence that makes sense if the last word is Totally (even though I'm NOT a valley girl). It makes me chuckle when it works out really well and I can get some great enjoyment out of it, Totally
Last time I looked it was a free country, we all have reasons for choosing our names here.
The reason some people here do not choose their given name is most likely they want their life to stay private~anonymity.
We shouldn't judge a book by it's cover or someone by the name they choose. I think it is creative to choose a different name here. It gives us a new identity.
Sure there are some strange names here, I agree. but it is an individual thing, isn't it?
I think the question asked should have been why did you choose the name you picked for on this BB. Now the responses so far have been interesting!
I picked mine because I wanted to project that I'm all right. Although through this journey there have been MANY times that I'm NOT all right!
Judge not, least you be judged.
So anyone out there reading this thread and looking at the name they chose here. Think of WHY you choose it and decide if it no longer fits. I know I will still be all right, but I really don't know if anyone would recognize me if I changed my name.
I know true movies and books sometimes change their names to protect the innocent. I believe this is our right to do so.
My, my, aren't we all serious...my name comes from a book title about a fictional female archangel. I just chose it because I like it, and my husband and I are actually considered naming our baby Lyrael if it's a girl.
Lotsa Love, Lyrael/Myrrh
One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.
Quote: I think the question asked should have been why did you choose the name you picked for on this BB.
I let this one sit for a while but I just had to respond. First, no one said anything about "rights" to choose names or changing the status of our "free country".
Second, it's great to share your opinion about what the question should or should not have been, but why not allow others to pose questions or opinions as they see fit?
Pam's original "topic of the day" was "what is it about screen names?" - it was a about her opinion that she didn't want her name to reflect all of her 'being' in a negative way. She simply kicked off a topic with that thought.
While I do find it interesting to hear why we picked our names, I think it's more interesting to think about how we project ourselves to the world (which includes our spouses) by our actions (including picking nicknames, how we dress, what we do, how we COMMUNICATE to others, etc.).
Everyone here DOES have an opinion, but I guess I don't have any right to voice mine. Pamela can ask any question she wants I guess I may have worded it wrong, and I'm tired of being the only person here apologizing! GEE WIZZ! I'm not waging a war here, but feel I'm in the middle of one.
BTW, I'm not leaving the BB because of opinions. Frankly I don't care what anyone posts. I just get the opinion this may be a group or club and some pepople's opinions are not welcome.
So I GET it! Gee, would someone please tell me where I CAN post?!
Sorry Betsey! I think you are an awesome person! I have nothing against you Betsey, and you have posted to me a few times.
This is beginning to sound like a grade school playground!
Wow- I really wonder what happened to the board where people were focused on supporting each other and sharing their own struggles.
This started as Pam, Mer, and Betsey's thread. Does anyone see them here? I know one of them is on vacation, but you have to wonder if people being extremely touchy has anything to do with them taking a brief hiatus. (If it's just cuz you guys are busy, I do apologise). I hang out on BB with Pam, Mer, Bets, TripleJ and others, because they are POSITIVE, they are FUN, and they don't take themselves (or life) always completely seriously.
I don't come to the BB to apologise. I come to support and be supported. I don't know what the hell is going on with Piecing, but I really wish everyone would calm down and start focusing on things that are important. If you don't like someone or their opinion and can't resolve it, don't post to them! This is a big board, with room for everyone. I don't mingle with everyone, and I don't expect everyone to like me or what I say.
I really miss my positive corner of the BB. Myrrh
One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.
Quote: I come to support and be supported. If you don't like someone or their opinion and can't resolve it, don't post to them! This is a big board, with room for everyone. I don't mingle with everyone, and I don't expect everyone to like me or what I say.
That use to be my reason for coming here, but someone started critising someone's opinions and what they said on someone else's thread.
You're absolutely right, I will DB and give you your space. I hope others, that started this will give me the same respect.
I am really kinda hurt at the tone of this thread. Come on everybody, let's get it together. We all have opinions and that is ok. Can we agree to disagree? I come here because I feel so supported here. I want to continue te fell comfy with everyone. I may not love everybodies opinion, but I do respect it.
