“ All of the people that I know who have been through this before have chosen generosity and peace in the hope of having a good relationship. I just can’t understand why you would want to be controlling and greedy instead. It breaks my heart. It feels like you must want me to use our money to by duplicates of things that we own. I’ve been trying not to do that to keep that money for home repairs. If we can’t afford to maintain the house we will have to sell it. So I’m being as frugal as possible, using things that we already own instead of buying more stuff. I cannot have a 5 minute argument with you every time I need something.
My first draft response ( have not sent ):
Thank you for letting me know your ideas. I sense your frustration. The pot is yours I realize.I plan to keep the house and I am looking after it. Feel free to send me a list of what you want and I will look it over.
