Thank you all for the advice, I did move back in the bedroom and she is sleeping in the man cave, she suggested that we swap one week she gets the bedroom and one week I get it. Should I not agree to that? Maybe I should say no thanks I like the bedroom better.
We have been married 21 years, actually last Thursday April 6th was our anniversary. I saw her that morning and then I went out of town with my son to visit my brother. Nothing was said and then at 10 pm that night she texted me Happy Anniversary (so weird not sure what to think of this). I choose not to reply but just gave it a thumbs up. We have 3 Children oldest daughter is in college (19) middle daughter is a sophomore (16) and our son is in 8th grade (13).
She may be having an affair she is a nurse and there is a doctor that she works with that she told me she is attracted to. She also seems go out a lot with her so called "girlfriends from work" at least once a week and usually does get home to late.
Go back and read the posts on why you should move back into the bedroom. Those reasons haven't changed and agreeing to bedroom nesting would undermine your commanding respect and the fact that she is the one wanting to leave the marriage.
Do not read much into the "Happy anniversary" message. Likely she felt it unnatural to not acknowledge it. And that all it was. As LBS we love to attach significance to anything that we deem as a positive from our WAS, and downplay anything negative. Remember, actions speak louder than words. No matter that she is saying, what she is doing is the real truth.
Your last paragraph is a very common tale. Lots of WAS are also wayward spouses, turning into "Spouses Gone Wild". But here is the thing, don't dwell that just keep focusing on you and what you should be doing.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
