IF she came to you today, and wanted to work on things...
Are you the person that you want to be in your next relationship ??
Would you want to be in a relationship with yourself ???
Yes, I am that person, in process. I’m not there and I don’t believe I’m very close to being ready. What I mean by that is as follows:if she said she wanted to work on things, I would want to be clear on what I am ready and willing to do. So far, I am trying to consistently do the right thing at the right pace for myself and our family. As far as a R with a new person, I have a lot out of healing to do first. And I would imagine that would take time.
And I have blind spots, but yes as far as I can see, I would want to be in a R with myself. I have been reflecting on some things that W has told me about her experience in our R. I had said to her, “I know you and yet I really don’t. You said that S doesn’t know what it has been like in our M. I don’t know what it has been like for you. I don’t know your experience.” That opened the door and she told me things about her hopes and dreams for our M that I never knew.
And I have a lot more awareness and understanding to bring into a new R (with W or someone else) when I am ready.
