Thanks all for the replies. Sorry I didn't get back sooner. Been pretty busy the last couple of days. Applied for several jobs and hanging out with the kids.
First thing is, I didn't mean to imply that I was considering making any decisions based on the fear I posted about. I think it is more a fear of her hanging around but not really wanting to be here. She built up the nerve to leave once, not sure she would do it again. She may just suffer through because it's the "right" thing to do. She seems to be slowly returning to a lot of her old self. What do I do if she just eases back into us and nothing is ever said or worked on? I don't see how we make it work by just ignoring what happened.
To answer your questions Mach-yes, yes, and yes. I have also tried to tell myself that at times she carried the marriage. Probably heard it from you before. I guess I just don't want to waste anymore of my life waiting to be happy. I fell into that trap along time ago of thinking the next thing or milestone was going to bring happiness. I can be happy without her, as much as it hurts to think about it, and I am trying to be happy now. It makes me sad to think about what she is going through in her mind and that she might stay even if it's not what she truly wants.
Steve-I initially thought I had set a time limit of 1 year as well. I don't know that I need a certain amount of time now, just continued progress in how things are going. Things do seem better and she seems happier. Could be an act though.
Gotta run, she just got home and I'm in the living room on our old computer. Finish my response later. Thanks.
