I got to thinking about that and realized another fear. I don't want to spend 3-5 years with someone that doesn't want to be with me. I don't want to wake up at 55-56 years old and have no-one.
That’s the thing about fear, isn’t it?
We fear things not necessarily because they are something bad, but because it’s something unfamiliar.
There’s every possibility that by the time you’re 55 … you’re single, happier, confident and thriving in your work, your relationships, with your kids. Or alternatively, by the time you’re 55 - perhaps you’re in a new, loving, non-codependent relationship.
Just because something is unknown, doesn’t mean it should be feared.
I started my divorce like you - terrified I’d be on my own, and no idea what it was going to look like. Four years on, I’ve re-partnered and I’m happier than I ever was with my ex. What I feared, turned out to be joyous. And even better than that, I’ve learnt my self worth, my independence and my confidence. If my current relationship ended tomorrow, I’d be totally fine and happy being me.
That’s the power of DB.
If you focus on you, all the other details will fall into place.
