Thank you for these responses. The party was a meaningful gathering to say goodbye to someone very special to our family and community who moved out of county yesterday to go on mission. I am very happy that I went and believe it was the right call for me while at the same time I also perceive the potential downside that you describe of me attending. It certainly meant a lot to me to be there with D and friends and to send our friend off. She really is like a part of our family in many significant ways. The hosts were young women from our church. Our pastors were there. There was a time around BD when W had said that if I went out with our friends or to a social gathering that meant she wouldnt be able to go. Well she went. I’m happy for her that she did and i know it meant a lot to our friend. W left early and after the party D had several friends over to our place for crafts.
Rock On, we've seen a lot of these situations and people are always finding excuses why they needed to be at an event where their walkaway was. Only you know for sure if your motives were 100% true or not. There are events that cannot be avoided, the problem with LBSs is we claim that even if it isn't true because deep down we want to see the walkaway. So even optional, trivial, non-necessary events become "must goes". If you insist this was the case then I believe you. However, if it really wasn't then you are only deluding yourself, not us.
However, as others have pointed out you've shown the penchant for reaching out to her before. So I ask you to be honest with yourself on these things.
Anyway, this event is now over and your have the opportunity to go back to focusing on yourself.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
