This should be made a sticky. R2C, can you add this to your thread?
It demonstrates two VERY clear DB principles: 1. It matters not what you say/do/be/admit to/want. All that matters is that most WAS/WS have no idea what they’re doing, what they want, how to get there - and they’ll burn the world down while simultaneously flip-flopping wildly. It’s a dumpster fire, and you just need to let it burn. 2. TMS, you spent significant energy trying to analyse the conversation. Significant time thinking - did I say the right thing, what does her reaction mean, have I pushed her further away, how does it align with DB principles, what do others on the board think happened…. All this fear driven analysis about what it all meant … and less than 24 hours later, the entire script has been flipped. It’s a good lesson - don’t waste your time analysing and worrying about how SOMEONE ELSE may think, want or do. You do you - calm, measured, honest and honourable. Next time you want to spend hours of your life trying to analyse her, remember what just happened. You’re better off sinking that time into hobbies, fitness, holidays, personal development, education and living life the the full.
Thank you, I agree with you. Althought, I view it from a different angle now. My posts are no longer about overanalyzing her actions (I used to focus on that before), but rather to get your feedback on my own actions. Whether I did well or not. Focus now is fully on my own actions, not hers. For this, I try to give some context on her actions.
Originally Posted by Kind18
Absolute boss move 😎. Well done!
Thanks! Let's see if she actually picks her things up.
