Hi Briget!
Yeah, I understand the reasons behind those names at first. I guess I don't understand not changing it. But, again, these are just my musings. I'm not saying that any one way is right or wrong. Well, I have to correct that. I do think it is hard to believe that someone is working on being a stronger person when you are addressing your letter to:
Dear hopeless and worthless
or whatever.
But, of course, we all came here "broken." I think that the hassle of changing the name would be worth it...

Briget! You shouldn't have to work feeding the public all day and then come home to be the neighborhood restaurant too! I know, I know...I do the same thing too! My grocery bill is horrendous.