It's a couple weeks away but as of now I do. She will be in town for a few days; not certain if she is staying in our home again or somewhere else. I have a better understanding of the circumstances now and am therefore in a position to not get emotionally caught up in what I previously interpreted as "confusion". With this in mind, I think it is wiser for me to stay in our home than to "flee".
Originally Posted by DnJ
Is she currently living in a different city? Is she flying in again? If so, it’s highly unlikely she will be packing up / taking much stuff. D
Yes, flying in from a different city several thousand miles away. She has packed most of her personal items. No clue how many shared items she will want to pack. As you stated I assume relatively few. I get the sense she is not ready/willing to encounter the heaviness that accompanies the necessary discussions to pack/take items that are more clearly mutually owned.
Originally Posted by DnJ
Do you and her have separate accounts, credit cards, etc? Is the house owned, mortgage, or rented? How much are each of you paying towards the house and bills? What about her living expenses while separated? How much of your finances are joint? D
Accounts have been separated as of about 3 weeks. Removed her as an authorized user on credit cards. The house is rented. I am staying in the home and plan to pay for the relevant expenses at this point. Frankly, my income is an order of magnitude higher than hers. Her expenses are her own at this point. The last real separation that needs to happen is for her to get a separate cell phone plan. I've asked her to do this a couple weeks ago. If she has not completed this by the time she comes to get her things I will review this with her in person. I suppose an alternative is to simply remove her from our plan without any further comment.
