I am standing up for myself with how I want to be treated.
Originally Posted by Rockon
I said I am working on being clear with my intention and actions and respecting my own boundaries as well as hers.
You’ve stated your boundaries, now follow/enforce them. No need to tell her again.
Did you articulate to W your consequences for boundary violation? It’s not mandatory or anything. Your consistent actions when disrespectful behaviour occurs will quickly illustrate the consequences and the seriousness of your standing up for yourself.
Originally Posted by Rockon
She said, ok then I just won’t talk to you at all and then I won’t treat you that way. I said that works, too.
Good for you not getting dragged in to her snarky provoking.
I agree with Cadet. W is depressed, unhappy, and that it’s not your job to fix her.
I also find it interesting that W stated her unhappiness, her hurts, and her disappointments; and did not blame you for them. Actually admitted she stopped showing up in the marriage, sans justifications.
Continue giving time and space. Let her walk her path.
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
