Continue as you have been doing. It's okay to try to guess where he is at in his crisis, but I wouldn't keep my focus on that. He'll bounce back and forth through the anger right up to acceptance for quite some time. Depression will be there and yes, it is the main ingredient of his crisis.
Treat him as you would a friend and keep conversations casual. The more you listen, the more he will tell on himself.
Good luck!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
