This may come off as harsh, so I mean this out of place of support.
You are not divorce busting. A few weeks ago you had a list of conditions to welcome her back, than say you are considering telling her you want a divorce when you obviously don't. This is manipulation, nothing more, nothing less.
You were accused of stalking her very recently, than show up to a party you know she'll be at and than proceed to talk to her. That doesn't look good and adds fuel to her accusations.
We've all been there and we all know divorce busting comes off incredibly unnatural, but all you are doing is showing her you can't move on, and you are in her back pocket. There's no way for her to start to respect you let alone anything else if you are still openly pining for her, but you are doing nothing but damaging any hope you may have.
I'm not the first poster to point this out to you, you find reasons at every turn to have contact, and that's just...not at all what's needed here. How is she suppose to see you in a new light?
I really think it's time you go back over the book and links.
Me: 40 EX:37 Together 17 years Married 16 years 5 kids, 20,18,15,14,11
