Walkaway bride

[Ready2Change]

I need to continue working on my validation skills

Some feedback:

I got many phrases like:
"Is this revenge?" -NOPE.
"This is exactly the reason why I want to divorce you"- "I can see why you would think that"
"You are acting immature and childish"-"It must be frustrating for you"
"You are stopping me from living my life"- "You are free to live however you want. Nobody is stopping you"
"You trapped me for our whole relationship"- "I am sorry you feel that way"
"I no longer trust you" - "I can understand the lack of trust"
"I just can not communicate or do it with you" - "perfect"
"You are too much for me to handle"- "i can see that"

I stated many times

Only say things once. This is a good skill the learn and master. Learn statements like this "I already told you. If you are not going to listen the first time, than I see no reason to continue talking with you"

Then she immediately said you don't get me and I want divorce.

Validation: "I understand that." You could also add "You sound frustrated" type statements. That shows you "get her". Different example: "You are obviously angry, so I believe it is best if we continue this conversation after you have calmed down"...You walk away and she will get move angry..which is OK.

There was definitely this vibe of trying to provoke me into saying that I still care about her or desperately need her in my life. Especially the threats about taking her stuff or not talking to me anymore.

YUP, testing you. Do not react. Do not enter her frame. You want a woman who complements you life. Project that. live that.




One thing I learned was to let my lady be as emotional as she wants. I can handle it. As long as she is not being physical, I just listen and let her vent, even if it is about me. I am the emotional rock.