Whenever I try to get closer, she runs away. Such tendencies are not only now, but even when we were still fully together.
Have you read the pursuit and distance thread?
It perfectly explains this.
I did. That's exactly why I told my friend that there was more to this whole conversation, then just my wife trying to get technical details on our divorce. She kept talking to me for too long just for technical details (I kept talking too long as well).
2 weeks ago, I told her that I will no longer be actively pursuing her. I'm done. Stayed completely silent for 2 weeks. Then this week she started bombing me with these agreements, calls and messages.
Again, she has been promising to take her stuff for more than a month now. No actual action. After I set boundaries today, she again told me she will get her stuff. The way she phrased it was textbook example of her wanting to get me to pursue her. As if she wanted to hear "oh no, please don't. let's try again, why rush?".
