You are doing well! Bomb drop was a mere six weeks ago. And you are navigating the minefield nicely.
Yes, seeing the long game shows a level of detachment. Like you say, H is shrouded in affair fog. It’s rather pointless to try to penetrate it; thick and occluding it is. Likewise, H cannot see outward clearly. His entire world view has a haze to it.
Congratulations on the weight loss. I managed to keep the 35 pound of my divorce diet off permanently.
I do understand that feeling of pride from accomplishing what was once our spouse’s tasks. No need to belittle that, or look at it as sad. True, the impetus of this growth was terrible, yet the growth itself is excellent. More independent, confident, assured, and so on.
Please, do let me know how the the chest of drawers goes. Personally, I believe you will carefully read and follow the instructions, and will assemble it just fine.
The defrosting of the fridge. A hammer and chisel. Eek! It’s best to just let the ice to melt, and chunks to fall off on their own. Prying and hammering has the high chance of damaging the thin-walled interior which can allow coolant loss. I truly hope that did not happen. My first defrosting, I ended up having to purchase a new fridge after prying and trying to speed up the process.
Sounds like you’ve had some wonderful walks and time with friends. And four miles! Each night. Impressive.
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
