I have been reflecting and journaling on these ideas. Also working on in IC. Doing work for myself on boundaries. Have Dr Cloud’s book and another one from Nedra Tawwab with a workbook as well.
Working on boundaries is very important for me with healthy step moving forward. My eyes are opened to codependency and I am guarding against it and making changes in how I am responsible for myself. D is also going to IC and has a strong, fun and loving social network and a great BF. I am careful not to parentify her.
D has also talked with me about her boundaries. She told me that she is working on healthy boundaries in her R with her mom (W) and mom’s family. And she has thanked me for respecting her boundaries and giving her space to be herself.
Enjoyed bible study with a small home group connected with church last night. Good community for me without my family members. Others present know some of my family (they all know D and have met W, and some know special needs S). I had a good experience and contributed to the group appropriately. Content was very meaningful for me and all I’m going through. I didn’t bring up to the group anything about W or our R (I have other more appropriate outlets/close friends for that) but I was honest and genuine in other ways.
This is a fluff loaded response. it’s not your responsibility to make us feel like you have everything under control. Instead, take some time to respond if you are feeling attacked. Pause, get in a conscious mindset where you’re calm where you can dig deep and see how forum advice and can apply to you. Then come back if you want with concrete measurable information. it’s going to help you make yourself better.
M:51 W:43 T:17 M:15 S:13 D11 10/2022 BD/IHS 03/2023 W moves out
