I have been reflecting and journaling on these ideas. Also working on in IC. Doing work for myself on boundaries. Have Dr Cloud’s book and another one from Nedra Tawwab with a workbook as well.
Working on boundaries is very important for me with healthy step moving forward. My eyes are opened to codependency and I am guarding against it and making changes in how I am responsible for myself. D is also going to IC and has a strong, fun and loving social network and a great BF. I am careful not to parentify her.
D has also talked with me about her boundaries. She told me that she is working on healthy boundaries in her R with her mom (W) and mom’s family. And she has thanked me for respecting her boundaries and giving her space to be herself.
Enjoyed bible study with a small home group connected with church last night. Good community for me without my family members. Others present know some of my family (they all know D and have met W, and some know special needs S). I had a good experience and contributed to the group appropriately. Content was very meaningful for me and all I’m going through. I didn’t bring up to the group anything about W or our R (I have other more appropriate outlets/close friends for that) but I was honest and genuine in other ways.
