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Re: New to this! #2 Rejoice #2944610 03/26/23 10:25 PM
Joined: Feb 2023 Posts: 67 Likes: 19 R Rejoice OP Member
OP Rejoice Member R Joined: Feb 2023 Posts: 67 Likes: 19	I'm going to worship services 3 days a week. Seems excessive but it really helps my state of mind. I'm going to various art studio groups. Lunches with at least two friends a week. Check-ins with a couple of depressed friends at least once a week. I know that doesn't sound like a lot of fun but I love them and like to cheer them up. I'm talking to my dad about buying my own motorcycle (He's the motorcycle guru) My art Currently on my way to a friend's birthday party. Next weekend I'm taking an overnight out of town with another friend. H 41 W 36 D16 S15--my stepchildren D11--biological M 6, T 13 Bomb/EA 1/19/23 Separated but living together

Re: New to this! #2 Rejoice #2944611 03/26/23 11:47 PM
Joined: Sep 2022 Posts: 1,254 Likes: 251 R Rockon Member
Rockon Member R Joined: Sep 2022 Posts: 1,254 Likes: 251	Sounds great. Good to have both fill up your tank activities and ones to build up/serve others. M:52 W: 51 T:27 M:25 D26 S24 S21 D20 BD:2022

Re: New to this! #2 Rejoice #2944619 03/27/23 12:08 PM
Joined: Jun 2015 Posts: 6,123 Likes: 411 New England B bttrfly Member
bttrfly Member B Joined: Jun 2015 Posts: 6,123 Likes: 411 New England	sounds good. in addition to keeping busy, what are you reading and doing to change the person you were at BD? Last edited by bttrfly; 03/27/23 12:08 PM. M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16 "Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver

Re: New to this! #2 Rejoice #2944627 03/27/23 08:32 PM
Joined: Feb 2023 Posts: 67 Likes: 19 R Rejoice OP Member
OP Rejoice Member R Joined: Feb 2023 Posts: 67 Likes: 19	I'm reading a book on God's love and rereading my notes from DR/DB frequently. I read a book on respecting my husband in marriage which was eye opening. To continue to change I'm slowing down and thinking about my words and actions through a lens of showing love to everyone, rather than allowing every circumstance to make me frustrated. H 41 W 36 D16 S15--my stepchildren D11--biological M 6, T 13 Bomb/EA 1/19/23 Separated but living together

Re: New to this! #2 Rejoice #2944761 04/03/23 01:38 PM
Joined: Feb 2018 Posts: 9,829 Likes: 240 S SteveLW Member
SteveLW Member S Joined: Feb 2018 Posts: 9,829 Likes: 240	Rejoice, how are things going? M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018

Re: New to this! #2 Rejoice #2944774 04/04/23 02:07 AM
Joined: Feb 2023 Posts: 67 Likes: 19 R Rejoice OP Member
OP Rejoice Member R Joined: Feb 2023 Posts: 67 Likes: 19	Nothing new to report. I'm still doing my best to GAL and he's still doing whatever he wants and not making this "decision" he claims he's making. H 41 W 36 D16 S15--my stepchildren D11--biological M 6, T 13 Bomb/EA 1/19/23 Separated but living together

Re: New to this! #2 Rejoice #2944775 04/04/23 03:18 AM
Joined: Jan 2018 Posts: 4,983 Likes: 616 D DnJ Member
DnJ Member D Joined: Jan 2018 Posts: 4,983 Likes: 616	Hello R Good for you. Keep focusing on you and living life. H may be struggling greatly with working on his decision, or he may be running from it, or something in between. Leave him to it. Not your circus, not your monkeys. Personally, I suspect H is wracked. The less ammo you provide the more he has to look at things. Guilt, regret, and such are near impossible to run from. Especially in the still dark of night while laying in bed. It’s when one’s demons come out to play. Keep giving time and space, and being pressure-free. How was the overnight trip? Nice hotel? Good food? Fun time? D Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.

Re: New to this! #2 Rejoice #2944803 04/04/23 07:56 PM
Joined: Feb 2023 Posts: 67 Likes: 19 R Rejoice OP Member
OP Rejoice Member R Joined: Feb 2023 Posts: 67 Likes: 19	The overnight trip was nice! The food and the company were great. We saw a comedy show which was a lot of fun. When I returned I didn't provide much for details to H about my time there, and he ended up having a cow about how he wants me to tell him more things more often. Ha ha H 41 W 36 D16 S15--my stepchildren D11--biological M 6, T 13 Bomb/EA 1/19/23 Separated but living together
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Re: New to this! #2 Rejoice #2944804 04/04/23 08:05 PM
Joined: Feb 2018 Posts: 9,829 Likes: 240 S SteveLW Member
SteveLW Member S Joined: Feb 2018 Posts: 9,829 Likes: 240	Typical entitled WAS. M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
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Re: New to this! #2 Rejoice #2944807 04/04/23 10:34 PM
Joined: Jan 2018 Posts: 4,983 Likes: 616 D DnJ Member
DnJ Member D Joined: Jan 2018 Posts: 4,983 Likes: 616	You handled H perfectly. Glad you had a great time. Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.

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