One thing about fear that I will admit to. I'm afraid that she is trying to friend zone me or will just try to ease back into the R. That scares me because at that point I will have to push her to do what we would need to do as a couple to start a new R. I don't know that she ever will. Of course we never "know" what someone will do. Just being honest about my thoughts.
Friend zone - you don't have to allow yourself to be placed there. That you control, not her.
Ease back into the R ... push her to do what you need to do as a couple to start a new R... Mike if your changes are permanent that won't happen because the entire dynamic changes based on how you behave. She will still do whatever she does, but your changes, being permanent, will equate to you interacting with her in a new and different way, thus your relationship becomes something else.
Sometimes we fear our own changes more than anything our spouses dish out.
Thanks bttrfly. I understand what your saying. I do interact with her differently, most of the time. Still a work in progress. The thing is, I catch myself now at times starting to slip into the old ways and am aware enough to stop. I'm an over thinker and that's where a lot of my problems stem from. I allow myself time to process things and then move on now. It's not always easy, at least I'm aware and working on it. You are correct about fearing change. Not easy to teach an old dog new tricks. Not that anything I'm doing is a trick, just for clarity. See what I mean about over thinking? Lol.
