I wouldn't initiate a relationship talk. I would go on about my business and celebrate the anniversary on my own terms, i.e., do something for yourself or an outing with your children. I doubt seriously that she would be honest and truly listen to what you have to say if you did have a relationship discussion. It would confirm her thoughts that you haven't changed and aren't giving her space. Yes, they love their space even when they are living in the same house with you.
If she does wake up and want to reconcile, there will be a lot of work on both sides of the aisle. Neither of you can go back to the old marriage. It would have to be a brand new marriage and the changes that you made would still have to be permanent. Some people tend to slip back into old patterns and the other spouse may rethink coming back into the marriage wasn't the right move. Also, by the time she wakes up, if she does, you may have decided you just want to move forward. The final decision will ultimately be yours to make. However, until that time should come, continue working on you and live your life to the fullest.
Hang in there! Continue to ask questions. When in doubt, sit quietly and the answers will come.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
