Dats, I appreciate your input. You raise very valid concerns.
I intend to treat my W and family respectfully with healthy boundaries. I value collaborating well with her regarding our S’s needs and also in honoring her as his mother. I am working on being clear with my intentions with my communication.
In so doing, I am taking care to set aside other expectations that are not appropriate or healthy for me and stopping pursuit and other behaviours that violate my core beliefs and veer me away from my goals and purpose.
So I plan to continue to communicate well with W about S’s healthcare needs. This is also in his best interests. I continue to lead in this area.
True, W has not been behaving as team on the same side as me and our family. She has been acting in ways that hurt our relationships and our family. We are miles apart in so many ways, so it does not make sense for me to include her in many aspects of our family.
This is another area where I have stopped pursuit. I am not trying to make us a happy family together with W when that would deny reality. I am not planning family activities for us together with W.
