Thanks Kind & Mike. I'm familiar with both strategies from teaching to others in my day job but will try & incorporate more regularly for myself.
12 months seems an age away to cope with this emotional roller coaster. I feel I've been good for the past week but then H phoned S last night and the kids are definitely my weak spot. I'd just got in from my walk so could hear the conversation. It started off OK but then H asked S if he had called OW to give her a hard time because she had received a call. S denied this but also said he would do what he wanted (turns out he had private messaged her saying "are you not ashamed?" & nothing more. He'd deleted the message the next day when he calmed down). H then went on to say if S is angry, he should take it out on H not OW. He then said he wanted them to have more of a relationship & could they go out for a drink together. S said no, he wasn't ready but would continue going to football as long as H didn't lie. I stayed out of it all & tried to stay neutral but supportive to S after when he approached me to discuss. However, I'm seething inside & back to the pointless questions that lead me down a cheese tunnel (why, who is he, why is he more interested in protecting OW than S etc.). On the plus side, H is unaware of any of my thoughts and feelings because I keep them to myself and remain silent. He is a different man completely to who I fell in love with, its like his body has been abducted by an alien & all his values and morals have been removed.
Last edited by DnJ; 03/22/2301:34 PM. Reason: Corrected typos.
